On a trip, when people are shut up for long periods during
travel, sometimes, there is a particularly difficult youth that is
driving the other kids or the driver crazy or when two or more youth
are a particularly bad combination, you may need to force a shuffle.
You may find a driver or a youth that can handle an annoying youth
(but don't let this be a parent). However, no one should have to be
annoyed continually on a trip.
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Friday, January 31, 2014
Thursday, January 30, 2014
Staying in an unfamiliar church building
On trips when you use a church unknown to the youth there are a
number of considerations for making good use:
- Scout out the church on arrival. You may need to make some
spaces off limits for wild games (like Sardines). Some places need
to be avoided altogether.
- Find equably comfortable spaces for sleeping in. The
sleeping rooms are to be off-limits, including during games.
- Establish a good common room for worship, Bible Study, wild
games, and hanging out.
- Scout out the kitchen to see what it does or doesn't have.
- Find cleaning supplies.
- Most churches do not have showers, so plan on that.
- Play Sardines, preferably in the middle of the night. If you
don't know the game, check Wikipedia and read the “Hide and Seek”
version. (A freebee hint on Sardines – have the first
person to find the sardine become the next sardine, not the last
person, as it is commonly played, but, as with the traditional
version, the next round is started only after everyone has found and
hidden with the sardine.)
- Make sure the church is put back together and is cleaner than
you found it so that yours or other groups will be allowed to stay
there in the future.
Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Some general principles for handling disasters on a trip
To keep an experience such as related in the previous posts from being the disaster it could
have been:
- Remain calm ... It'll all work out somehow, and if you remain calm the kids are more likely to remain calm. If you are worried, they'll be worried, if you are angry, they'll get angry.
- ... But be honest with the kids. Trying to gloss over or pretend everything is OK is wasted energy, reduces the trust level and leaves you isolated. The kids need to know what's going on when things have gone awry.
- Follow the general principles for youth ministry. For example, I could safely leave the group to try to work out problems because I had enough counselors.
- Always keep the safety and sense of security of the young people firmly in mind at all times. If the planned activity is becoming risky, bail out without apology; if a backup plan being considered has not been researched thoroughly and is questionable in your mind, do something else. Don't be afraid to cancel an activity if you can tell the parents that it was for the safety of their children - they will be happier with you if you seem to be overprotective than if a child is injured or frightened.
- Always have a few backup activities and plans:
- Even though they are not thrilling to the youth, I always locate a museum, park, historical site and other such "tourist" items that we can go to if we end up with too much time on our hands.
- Have a storehouse of stupid games to play.
- Pizza is usually a good fallback activity and takes time.
- On trips, I carry a catalog case crammed with arts, crafts, worship resources, pens, paper, etc. - and lots and lots of games and toys.
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
A Surprise surprise
On a snowy afternoon with everything canceled, maybe I'll break with practice and give an extended narrative:
A later post will have principles for handling situations like this.
Even the best planned and worked out activity can go awry and being
able to handle surprises is important for all people doing youth
work. Perhaps a way of illustrating what can go wrong and some of the
principles of handling the unexpected would be to tell of such an
experience that I have gone through.
The Unknown Destination Trip from ...
I should have known what the weekend was going to be like in the
first two hours: we gathered and packed the van in a driving,
miserable rain, drove down to the first stop in terrible traffic -
and couldn't find the first stop. After driving around trying to find
the street or even someone to ask, we found someone who gave us exact
instructions - which led us out of the area (and away from our
destination) and into a tangle of roads around an airport. An hour
later we worked our way back to the area, found someone else and made
our way to the first stop. Unfortunately, there had been a massive
electrical fire in the area and the place was without power. Even
though this was to be our primary activity for the weekend, as well
as our supper and our overnight lodging, we were not even allowed
into the building.
We were able finally able to locate another place to stay the night,
and at 9:30pm, after four hours in a van we had supper at a McDs and
settled in for the night in the lounge areas of a dorm. And at long
last we were ready for the worship service that we were told would be
provided. Unfortunately, the person assigned to us was never told
this and had nothing prepared. So, while the kids entertained
themselves, we developed a service. We did sleep well that night, and
our hosts provided us with a nice breakfast. Things were looking up.
We were able to use the original facility for a while that morning,
although the kids were not really in the mood for the activity by
then.
The next item on the agenda was to go to a large downtown church
that was being remodeled to serve as a community center. The plan was
to do some cleanup work there, to play games in the gym, and finally
to shower in the locker rooms off the gym. Again the contact person
who was to work with us never really got the message and didn't show
up. (Here's one of the places where rigidity on my part worked
against us - leaving the group in the van with the other counselor
and with little to do I worked doggedly to make this part of the
program to work out). After an hour and a half delay, we were in the
building and ready to begin work. The work was actually fun for the
group since we got to take everything out of the old Sunday School
area, toss everything down a stairwell and then out the door and into
a dumpster. There is nothing like the sound of a piano banging down
5 flights of stairs!
While this was going on I checked out the rest of the building and
discovered that the gym floor was so badly water damaged and warped
that there wasn't any way we could play games there, nor did the
locker rooms have water. So much for recreation and getting cleaned
up. Fortunately we had a couple of backup plans, although they were
not all that exciting.
Finally, I had been told that we would be taken to a Portuguese
restaurant run by members of the church. It sounded comfortable and
interesting. However, we were mistakenly taken to a very high class
restaurant. The restaurant personnel were gracious but not thrilled
with having a group of (unwashed) middle school youth.
All in all, we found that we survived the weekend. The kids still
all talk about this great adventure we went on, as if it were
something very special. I have to admit, it did bring that group of
kids very close to each other! Maybe the objectives of the trip were
met in spite of everything.
A later post will have principles for handling situations like this.
Monday, January 27, 2014
Broadly graded: youth teach youth model
This is not nearly as controversial
as it was when I started youth ministry. Actually, one of my 70 year
old teachers had started teaching as a teenager. It is not a new
concept. But some churches haven't tried it and assume the worst. I
had one person leave our church, incensed because we had an
elementary class being taught by youth (there was an adult on the
team but he often missed because the youth had everything under
control). The class was noisy, with lots of movement and activity,
but the youth leading the class were all experienced teachers and
knew what they were doing and worked from lesson plans. As an
observer of all my classes I can say that those children learned more
than the other classes. In subsequent posts I'll give practical hints
on implementing this model effectively.
Saturday, January 25, 2014
Two essential elements for a Confirmation program
Two activities that I think should
be givens for a full scale Confirmation program:
- Regardless of the style of program, if you have more than 4 youth, consider a retreat or lock-in at the beginning to create a sense of community.
- Have a larger project sometime during the program that the youth decide upon, plan and execute with little adult direction. Once they have accomplished it they will feel better about themselves and each other and it will prove that they are, indeed, ready to be adult members of the church. I have found these to be particularly helpful in the first part of the program because it bonds the group
- Both of these activities give the group some common event to tie them together and to talk about when they have nothing else in common.
Thursday, January 23, 2014
Indoor Frisbee and other ways of filling dead spots
For those times we've all experienced: The program didn't show up or
is running late; the program is bombing; the program didn't take as
long as we thought, have an unusual activity or game always on the
ready.
How to do the surprise:
Keep a list of easy to do games in mind or on paper. I try to always
have a list of some old favorite and some new games on my agenda. For
special events, I will have a number of Koosh balls stashed in
various places ready to pull out and put to use. Another item I keep
handy (I even keep one in my backpack while I am at meetings and
conventions) is a rubber "spot" used for indoor games.
These make, among other things, great indoor Frisbees. I can just
pull it out and sail it across the circle to someone and the game is
on.
What to Avoid:
- Resorting to the games too quickly. There is a difference between a pause or a slow start to a program and a program that is falling flat.
- Using the same activity too many times in a row
Variations:
On Retreats, etc. I always have my Retreat box available, as
described on the Documents page which have a variety of handy props.
Wednesday, January 22, 2014
Confirmation mentors
If using a mentor system, choose
mentors carefully and pair them carefully.
- Train the mentors in working with adolescents and what are proper interactions and relationships.
- They should take the Presbytery Sexual Misconduct program and be instructed that they are never to be alone with their mentee
- Provide the mentors with material to go over with their charges
Tuesday, January 21, 2014
Things to say to a group when you are leaving them
Explain to them that when you leave you are gone:
- That you will not do weddings, come back for graduations or
anything else.
- You will do college recommendations. (This is an important
courtesy and one that you can probably do better than anyone else in
the church. This is not really interfering.)
- They are to welcome your successor warmly. “I have not
done my job well if my leaving disrupts things or my successor is
treated in a un-Christian fashion.”
- Explain that things will change and need to change.
- They should be told that they should never ever say things
like “we've never done it that way before,” “[your name]
always/never/used to...” etc
Monday, January 20, 2014
Rules of behavior for trips and camps.
This is mostly
targeting High School groups.
- Explain that laying out
rules is not a sign you don't trust them. Trust has nothing to do
with it. The adults are legally held responsible for the youth. This
is strictly a formality so that there are no misunderstandings or
surprises.
- On some things there can be no flexibility: If you break the
law (underage drinking, etc) we'll still love you and forgive you as
we put you on the airplane home – at your parent's expense.
- Some things make life together more pleasant overall, even if
they require some compromises.
- Some people may not want to keep their rooms neat and
presentable for non-roommates; therefore, don't invite people into
the room, especially those of the opposite gender. In fact, this
is forbidden in order to protect everyone from embarrassment or
being put on the spot.
- There is a common room for gatherings.
- Some people may not want to keep their rooms neat and
presentable for non-roommates; therefore, don't invite people into
the room, especially those of the opposite gender. In fact, this
is forbidden in order to protect everyone from embarrassment or
being put on the spot.
- Be sensitive to the need of all to be included and accepted;
and the need for all of us to be left alone at times. We also need
to be clear to others when we need quiet time.
- Recognize that you are only one of 27 people and have only
1/27th of a right to get your own way. If 14 decide
something, the other 13 will have to go along or lump it.
- If you lose gracefully we all will have a better time and
the others will be more willing to be gracious when you get your
way.
- As an example: this is too large a group and it is too
expensive to try to please everyone on food. While honoring
allergies, we have to go with standard, generic meals and
everyone will eat what is served or starve.
- There will be personality conflicts – learn to live with
them. This is a valuable life learning!
- In the work teams, everyone must carry their own share of
the load – nothing causes resentment and arguments more than
someone who is too busy doing other things when it is time to do
dishes or shingle a roof.
Sunday, January 19, 2014
Notices of upcoming meetings
Always publish a list of upcoming meetings a month at a time. This
helps attendance: they would rather attend something boring than
come to something unknown. Send followup reminders each week. Use the chart of preferred method of communications referred to in my previous post to determine what is the best way of getting this information in the hands of the youth.
Saturday, January 18, 2014
Economic Considerations for youth on a trip
Recognize that even in affluent areas there will be youths with very
limited discretionary funds. Often it is impossible to tell who has
money and who does not. To have expensive activities or a large
number of less expensive activities is to exclude some young people
from participation. Most churches have "scholarship help"
available, but even this is of limited usefulness because for many
youth who have limited income do not view themselves as "poor"
and in need of scholarship help. They just can't afford this
particular activity (nor the next one, nor ...).
- There may be other creative solutions to the problem, but the most commonly used approaches are an adequate youth budget and fund raisers by the youth. In any case, what needs to happen is for the cost per kid (c/k) be reduced across the board -- not just for those who "need" it.
- Scrupulously avoid any surprise expenses. Kids need to know exactly how much money to bring for an activity -- it is embarrassing to them to have to borrow money to get into something that is a group activity.
- Similarly, a healthy policy is that the initial fee for an event covers all necessary expenses -- all meals, housing, registration or entry fees. A kid could actually survive a trip or event without a dollar to their name.
- I usually include a disclaimer in information about an event that I cannot/will not predict how much money they need for personal use - i.e. snacks, CDs, souvenirs. Perhaps something on the order of: "Since different families have different traditions and practices about spending money, there can not be a recommendation on spending money. On this trip, however, there will be opportunities for people to buy snacks and gifts."
- To top all this off, if expenses are not covered by the initial fee or fundraising, you will need to be prepared to slip a kid or two the needed money.
Friday, January 17, 2014
Doing an interest group model youth program
This is fairly straight forward
- Find an adult expert willing to work with youth
- or find an adult willing to work with youth and discover their area of expertise
- Through survey and personal conversation with youth determine if the topic being talked about is actually of interest to the youth
- Look at the logistics involved. Is it really practical (Is there a place for and money for a kiln? For example)
- Establish a list of supplies and equipment needed to do it right. Starting out without the essentials – (“what if it fails and we've wasted that money...”) is to guarantee failure. This is like buying a cheap guitar with high action and then wondering why your child can't play it.
- Don't get discouraged if it doesn't take off immediately. Preexisting schedule conflicts may prevent even those who committed to it from participating. Youth are naturally conservative and may hang back until it is a success (a catch 22, of course). Then add in the difficulties of communication and forgetfulness. As a rule of thumb I say that it takes three years to determine if a youth program is going to be a success.
- There is no beating personal contact with potential participants
- If at all possible have more than one interest group – only one interest group eliminates all those who are not interested in that interest group.
- As with all organizations, every few years it needs to be reevaluated: have the leaders gone on? Have the kids that were interested moved on? Has it gotten stagnant and need to be stirred up?
Thursday, January 16, 2014
volunteer recognition
Volunteers need recognition and affirmation. The best affirmation they can get is when it is third hand – they heard from someone else how pleased you are with their work. So talk positively about your volunteers behind their back – to everyone you come across.
- Publicly acknowledge their contribution and share with them
all accolades, credit, affection.
- Volunteers need to know that you will stand behind them and
support them. Even if they mess up, work on the issue internally.
Do not disown them or publicly disavow any responsibility.
There are plenty of books on methods of volunteer recognition. Use them.
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Volunteer burn out
Volunteers do burn out. Three years is usually the maximum before
they need a change. However the change may simply be from youth group
to Sunday school teacher. Consider having a built-in “three year
rule” where a person can only do a particular job for three years
before they have to make a change to another job or take a year
“sabbatical.”
- This is scary because recruiting is sometimes so difficult,
but it is worth the effort.
- It allows someone else to have a chance to get to know your
kids and to enjoy working with them.
- It makes it possible to gently “retire” someone who
really needs to not be doing this work.
- It take care of the burn out problem.
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Proportional budgeting
The church's financial software probably allows this, but
figure budgets on a month to month basis, so that if there is a major
expense expected in June, that month's budget should reflect those
expense and if there is nothing at all to be spent from those line
items in September, then that should be reflected in the September
budget number. This helps planning and it keeps things from looking
bad in months when there are major expenses.
Monday, January 13, 2014
Surprising Variations on themes:
The Surprise
Modify traditional activities in surprising ways. These can
sometimes be complete, unexpected surprises or simply an attention
getter. For example, a Reverse Progressive Party could be organized
by the adults, and the youth surprised when they are served dessert
at the first location or the idea of a Reverse Progressive Party can
be adopted by the youth planning the Party and its quirky nature
mentioned in the publicity.
How to do the Surprise:
This is simply a matter of creative thinking and sometimes can come
from brainstorming style planning sessions with the youth. However,
the youth need to know that odd, controversial or "impossible"
ideas are welcome. This can be done if the ground rules for these
planning sessions include the rule that there are "no bad ideas"
only ideas that might not be chosen later. All ideas are then treated
equally and noted. Only after the creative thinking has stopped does
the group go back and pick the ideas that they want to try. If the
meeting is relaxed and an atmosphere of good humor is projected, many
good ideas can come from such a session. One or two O'clock in the
morning are especially good for such planning sessions, since
inhibitions are usually lower then.
What to Avoid:
Some youth groups have a tough time being original or dealing with
the unusual. This is one of the reasons why many of the suggestions
in this blog have to be total surprises to the youth – they would
not naturally plan or accept the ideas on their own. Some youth can't
even accept minor variations from the norm. I've had youth groups gag
on the idea of eating dessert before the main course. However, once a
group tries a few unusual ideas they grow to enjoy and appreciate
variation.
Variations:
- A Reverse Progressive Party (working from dessert to the appetizer)
- A LockOut - Going to a Retreat Center, but remaining outdoors all night, doing recreation moonlight hikes, worship on a knoll or in a cave . . .
- An unusual "...-A-Thon" (Rock-A-Thon, Bible-A-Thon, CupCake-A-Thon, ...) to raise money for a charity
- A window washing service ("We ONLY do windows") to raise money
- A program on the value of healthy living (rather than always having programs in the negative, i.e. on Drugs, alcohol, sex, etc).
- The "World's Smallest Banana Split" (use melon ball scoops to put ice cream between pairs of banana slices)
- Reverse Scavenger Hunt – go to people/houses and get them to take items on the list.
- Video or sound scavenger hunt – collect specific sounds or actions
- Theological scavenger hunt – interview people, looking for a diversity of opinions (i.e. "Find someone who believes in reincarnation")
- Sympathy Orchestra – Everyone brings a musical instrument (even if it is a kazoo) and sight read or "jam" with whatever combination shows up.
- An Interior Only Car Wash - (rather than streaking up the cars) do the carpets, dashboard, etc. Perhaps even clean engines.
Saturday, January 11, 2014
Firing Volunteers
Recruit carefully – it is hard to “fire” an inappropriate
leader. Do not put out general announcements for filling specialized
tasks such as youth groups, youth trips, retreats. It is OK to
advertise for Church School teachers, cooks, fund raisers. Hand pick
the people that will be working with your beloved youth.
- You don't “fire” a ill-matched volunteer, you
“re-purpose” them. Recruit them out of the one task and into
another one that they are more suited for.
- Background checks of one sort or another is pretty much
necessary. If you misjudge a person's character without having
double checked you may be in for a lot of unpleasantness if not
worse.
Friday, January 10, 2014
feminine hygiene supplies (now there's an old fashioned term)
(This post is mostly for male leaders who may not think about such things)
There is always some camper that is caught off guard and need “supplies.” The camp or trip should always have a supply of such items. There should even be some kept in the youth room. Make this common, if unstated knowledge. Female counselors should always carry supplies appropriate for the campers. Have the female counselors inform the female campers of the availability of these things. On a trip, have a woman counselor make a public announcement when she is going on a shopping trip. This allows a girl to quietly request purchase of “feminine hygiene” materials.
There is always some camper that is caught off guard and need “supplies.” The camp or trip should always have a supply of such items. There should even be some kept in the youth room. Make this common, if unstated knowledge. Female counselors should always carry supplies appropriate for the campers. Have the female counselors inform the female campers of the availability of these things. On a trip, have a woman counselor make a public announcement when she is going on a shopping trip. This allows a girl to quietly request purchase of “feminine hygiene” materials.
Thursday, January 9, 2014
An Interest group model: what is is?
Sometimes when a group does not have
much in common – different schools or towns represented or broad
age group – a program can be built around a set of special
interests. The classic “MAD – Music, Art Drama” program does
this. A “youth group band” is another common example. Interest
groups can also be task oriented such as group that collects aluminum
cans to redeem for money for hunger relieve, a group to help with
house and yard chores for the church's shut-ins.
These things are very local in
nature, a program from one community may not translate easily to
another community. I'll have some guidelines for creating and
running an Interest group style program. But look around the
congregation: what are types of interests and activities of the
church as a whole? What can be tapped into or built on? Who has
special skills? Are some of the youth already involved in some
interest that can be made a part of the church's program?
Wednesday, January 8, 2014
Food hints
The fact that
adolescents need lots and lots of food is such common knowledge, I
won't even count this one as a hint.
- If you have youths together more than a couple of hours, you
need food available.
- Grab up all your church's leftovers from any source and feed
them to the youth as snacks.
- Have at least some semi-healthy foods available.
- Quantity is more important than quality to most youth. We
cannot solve the over-nutrition and bad-nutrition problems for the
youth although we can avoid significantly adding to the problem.
- Most youth do not like exotic foods and won't try anything
new.
- Most youth like their food spicy – various Tex-Mex or
Italian foods.
Tuesday, January 7, 2014
A camper's soiled sleeping bag
On an overnight or at camp, if a young camper (7th
grade or younger) seems distressed in the morning and is either
wadding clothes in their sleeping bag or wadding the sleeping bag (or
their sleeping bag smells) they may have soiled their bed-clothes:
enuresis, spotting or wet dream. You do not want to say anything
direct, they are humiliated enough (even though no one else knows).
But you can say in their hearing but no one else's, “I think I'll
get my sleeping bag washed today, want me to throw yours in too to
make it a load.”
Monday, January 6, 2014
Surprises: Handling Complaints
Surprises will produce a certain amount of stress for youth and
their parents. Above all other age groups, teens become stressed by
new things – worrying about whether it is socially acceptable to
like this new thing. This kind of stress often results in a fair
amount of grumbling: "This is dumb"; "Do we have to?";
"We've never done this before." If the complaining falls
into this category, simply acknowledge and good naturedly ignore.
Many times I have heard a group of youths complain long and loud
throughout an activity and I went home discouraged only to have them
all show up at the next youth group meeting speaking of the activity
as if it were the most enjoyable thing they'd ever done!
If, on the other hand, the complaint is justified, try to adjust the
plan, and if it can't be adjusted, make the lemon into lemonade. On
one Unknown Destination Trip, at the insistence of my local contact
person, we went to a play. I had misgivings, but it was supposed to
be "wonderful" and "just what teens would like."
Actually, it was terrible: boring, poorly performed and completely
out-of-sync with my kids. I admitted to them that it was a bad
choice, but it wasn't anybody's "fault" and that our
contact was truly trying to be helpful. So we joked and teased about
it, and learned not to be mad or blaming. So, in the end, it wasn't a
bad experience after all.
Sunday, January 5, 2014
Getting along with other staff people
- If you watch the back of other staff people, they'll watch
yours.
- Keep each other informed of rumors and dissatisfaction.
- Do not seek out rumors and dissatisfaction (much less
encourage them).
- If you can clear up misunderstandings or misinformation, do
so.
- Keep each other informed of rumors and dissatisfaction.
- If you have a problem with someone, address it directly. If
you don't fully trust the person, have a third person in the room.
- Try to keep things in perspective and help the others to do
so also. Power struggles, egos, tradition, or change aside, how
important is it on the scale of eternity?
Saturday, January 4, 2014
Volunteer basics
Suggestions for the
recruitment and treatment of volunteers is a cottage industry. With
volunteers we are dealing with complex humans with unstated if not
unknown values, needs and agendas. Supporting and working with
volunteers is a never ending issue in youth ministry that requires
thought and time. A few basics:
- Volunteers need to feel needed. It is not sufficient for
them to be placeholders, a requisite male or female, back-up or
group bouncer. They need to be relied upon regularly.
- They usually have a limited amount of time and energy and may
not be able to do a lot of preparation.
- Volunteers need to be able to spend real time with the youth.
You may have to take care of the background, administrative stuff.
- Volunteers need a sense of community. Many sign up to teach
or work with a team with the hope that they will make friends with
the other adults.
- If you work with a lot of adults, you may find that your most
effective ministry to the youth is spending time with the adults and
keeping them happy.
Friday, January 3, 2014
Spouses... partners, significant other, soul mate, roommate, whatever...
We'll go with “Spouse” as a catch all. This is a hard
topic for “hints.” There are too many combinations and it is
too integral to who we are to be very objective.
-
First, some easy things:
- Explicitly make time for each other every week. No excuses,
no forgetting to schedule it until it is too late, especially if
both of you are professionally involved with youth.
- When you are going on a weekend or week long trip with the
youth, even if the spouse is going along, spend some planned family
time together before and after.
- Before a trip spend time doing some of the domestic chores so
your spouse doesn't get stuck with them all. This is also a good
alternative to what you will be doing.
Thursday, January 2, 2014
Surprise elements in otherwise structured events
Surprise elements in otherwise structured events
This has an infinite range of possibilities, the idea simply being
adding something unusual and unexpected to a regular event.
Why do this surprise?
- To liven things up
- To reward the regulars that come even for the routine activities
How to do the Surprise:
Simply do what was planned and expected and then, at the end, toss
in the surprise. For example, after a good and fruitful discussion,
suddenly declare the discussion over and have everyone follow you
out/up/in where you start a favorite game. This will leave the group
with a double dose of good feelings - about the discussion and about
the game.
What to avoid:
- The dubious practice of announcing at the beginning that you will be doing something, then threatening to withdraw the offer if their behavior doesn't improve - i.e. using the special activity as a bribe instead of as a treat.
- It is usually better not to pre-announce the surprise, bonus activity. If the activity is attractive enough to the youth, it may be a distraction to the main program or activity.
- Predictable surprises: always the same type of surprise, always a "surprise" after a particular activity or program ("The program is on getting along, that means we'll be going out for ice cream afterwards").
Variations:
- Go into a nearby town while on a retreat
- Do a special, unannounced activity on a retreat, trip or camp - such as horseback riding.
- Have a special treat on a hard day on a mission trip
- Have pizza delivered unexpectedly
- Go out for Ice Cream
- Give the group that comes to the scheduled meeting gets the first chance to sign up for a popular event
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