Drama Kings/Queens

We all have “drama kings/queens” who thrive on being upset. They are not happy unless they are unhappy.

• Their issues should always be taken seriously. No matter how many times we've been through something with them or with others, it is very real to them at the moment. We need to treat it as if it is real.
  
• On the other hand, we need not feed the fire by over-reacting and thereby reinforcing their use of drama for attention.
  
• React to the crisis with calm, low-key, non-public attention.
  
• If they are drawing in other adults or youth, suggest to the other people involved that it is up to you to take care of the issue and they can leave it alone. Have them suggest to the youth that they talk to you directly. Someone needs to address the issue, but 14 people addressing it will be confusing, counter productive, and give the problem and person too much attention, making it most attractive for a repeat performance. You can, similarly, let someone else on the team take the lead and you keep gently referring the youth to that person.