Setting time boundaries.

Setting time boundaries.

• Learn to ignore pressure, like the phone calls and emails. Even if others are not recognizing our boundaries, we need to still have them. Respond when it is appropriate to do so and in a way that is appropriate.
• Be blunt when telling someone that you can't get to something until... or can't take on a task, or can't make an event/meeting/etc You don't have to be defensive or apologetic, just matter-of-fact but sympathetic. I'll tell people that "that night is my only night home and I need to be home with my wife that night" -- no matter how important the event that I'm turning down is.
• As a general practice the church should not have more than 1 program staff person at any event/activity/meeting. There are exceptions (morning worship) but there is too much to do to have staff doubling up. Even if it is something I like and would be fine to be at, if if another staff person is going to be there I'll plan on being elsewhere.