Being a Surrogate parent

Youths, particularly middle adolescents (14-16), tend to relate to an adult in the same fashion as they do their parent of the same gender. If they are having a good relationship with their father they will probably have a good relationship with a male sponsor. If they are having a stormy relationship with their mother they will probably have a stormy relationship with a female sponsor. It doesn't mean that they “love” you or “hate” you. They are acting out their relationship with their parent. Be patient with them and don't take it too seriously.