- Try to have some adult responsible for an identifiable subset
of the youth in order to simplify determining whether everyone is on
board.
- Bring your own set of acceptable movies to choose from (some
bus drivers bring movies that might not be appropriate for your
group).
- Be sure to have group cash available for the driver's tip.
(Currently about $1.00 per person. I usually round up to give them
“hazard pay.”)
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Thursday, October 31, 2013
Transportation: Hired Buses
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
One advantage of a small youth group
Intimacy In the church
growth movement one of the key features is the “small group
model.” So if you have a small youth group, you are right on track!
- A small group allows for more personal interactions (less like herding cattle, more like relationships).
- Prayers can be more intimate and personal.
- Discussion more specific.
- You can "be there" for each one
- There is no confusion about who is whom or what their story is
Tuesday, October 29, 2013
When a group needs to be surprised: Reason #5
Sometimes
it is difficult to get teens, especially high school aged
youth, to try something new, something different. Often, the
only way to introduce a new and valuable activity is to
spring it on them. One of the key features of the "Unknown
Destination Trip" is that it is a way to introduce new
and perhaps threatening mission projects. When youth have
done a project once, it is much easier to get them to do it
again, as a regular feature of their lives.
Monday, October 28, 2013
Sacrificing for our youth: Dating
This is, of course, a really touchy subject because
it touches the core of a person's being. When one is “in love”
reason and other considerations are a threat not something to take
into consideration. Also, the exact circumstances can vary to a huge
degree. However, hear are a few generalizations.
- First of all. A youth worker that is dating is generally not a problem. Even having them come on youth trips and activities can be a good thing if the guidelines are followed.
- There are, of course, inappropriate partners – no matter what the age difference or how strong the mutual love is, the youth themselves are completely off-limits for many, many reasons. This is one of those “love has nothing to do with it” situations. Keep in mind that you will fall in love many times and if one heart wrenching love doesn't pan out, there will be others. If the person is abusive, love has nothing to do with it, get out of the relationship, etc. There will be other opportunities for love. But you don't want to harm your youth be having an inappropriate or destructive relationship. Like it or not you just can't expose them to harmful influences.
- In public settings, interacting with a partner you are not married to needs to be real, but appropriate. You can get away with the same level of Public Displays of Affection as the youth themselves. There are cultural differences between groups, but if an activity is considered out of bounds for the youth, it is out of bounds for you (in public).
- Model good relationships practice.
- You, of course,want to keep your private life private, but you can share little details, such as “I'm sorry if I'm cranky, I'm having boyfriend/girlfriend trouble...”)
- Do not use your youth group as therapists and unload your deepest feelings and secrets. And, with parents, in a breakup do not pit your youth group against your former friend. Model good, mature behavior even if you think it may kill you.
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Minimum number for an event
For most events, there is no “ideal” number below which the
events should be canceled. As I've said, canceling an event should
be avoided at all costs. Put positively, “wherever two or three
are gathered together I am in their midst.” If two or three are
enough for God they can be enough for us. You can however, make
adjustments, since you can talk to each of the participants and vary
the plan to make it more fun, more exciting, more worthwhile. Take
advantage of the flexibility that a small number affords you.
Friday, October 25, 2013
Find the Party Scavenger Hunt
Have a
publicized, popular event, such as a party, but when they arrive at
the site, there is a sign saying that the event has been moved –
-with a clue as to where. At that location there is a clue to the
next spot, and so forth until they arrive at the party site.
Why do this
Surprise:
This idea simply
takes a mundane event and makes it memorable. It also gives a group
with little in common, as might be the case for a social event,
something in common to talk about.
How to do the
Surprise:
In most
situations there will need to be heavy publicity for a moderately
attractive event. Social events often are passed over by youth, some
because these events are uncomfortable for them, others because they
have plenty of social events to chose from. Most youth will also wait
to see "who else is coming" before committing. You may have
to resort to "recruiting" at least some of the
participants. A successful and fun activity, however, will make other
events more attractive. Step two of preparation is to arrange for
drivers. In this day and age, most of us are hesitant to allow youth
to drive during youth events (as opposed to driving to and from
events). Also, it helps in the mixing of a group if kids are thrown
together into cars or vans based on the when they arrive at the
original site.
Next, the
intermediate locations need to be decided upon and arrangements made.
Although the intermediate locations can be anywhere, if they are
public and/or unprotected locations, the clues may disappear, causing
much unhappiness.
In some
communities, it might be wise to alert the police that the roving
bands of teens are O.K.
Additional
hints:
- The clues can be cute, direct, cryptic or funny. The primary issue is how much time is to be spent trying to find the party and how much time is spent at the party. This depends on the situation. Avoid making the clues so cryptic that they can't figure them out and get frustrated.
- Provide drivers with a sealed set of the clues and possibly with answers to each.
- Have a problem solver type person that can independently make good decisions as the last driver to leave the original location. They may need to deal with any odd situations. Some such situations are people who brought friends whose parents thought that they would be only a the church building; someone with a particular allergy that might be a problem; someone who can only stay "for a few minutes."
- The last driver should probably stay a minimum of 15 minutes after the party was supposed to start and the initial clue should be posted at this original site, because of the probability of late comers.
Variations:
- Have part of the party or have refreshments at each of the intermediate destinations
- At each site, have a clue to the next site, but also have an additional, more obscure clue that points to the final destination - allowing some to short circuit the scavenger hunt.
- Have the event annually and after the first year, make the clues harder and have the hunt for the party to be the primary activity.
- Have the activity be a mystery party from the beginning and publish along with the general publicity clues to the location - the youth are then challenged, singly, in clusters of friends or as a whole group to solve the mystery prior to the day of the party.
Thursday, October 24, 2013
The down side of high self-esteem
As mentioned, both serious writers but especially the popular
press regularly attack the Millennials. This is really nothing more
than a typical older generation putting down a younger generation.
This form of sour grapes has been going on since at least Socrates.
Pay no attention to it. The Millennials are great. However, they
are not perfect and one of the things that makes them great is also
the primary fault line. The down side of high self-esteem and the
Millennial generation is that they have an unnaturally good
self-image.
- They don't take criticism or failure well.
- It is sometimes hard to find someone to do the little, less
glamorous jobs.
- They expect praise for everything they do and acceptance of
every idea they come up with (no matter how dumb).
- They have trouble getting and holding a job because the job
is beneath them or their supervisor is a jerk that doesn't recognize
their sterling qualities.
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
The up side of Millennials and high self esteem
We all want children to grow up with high self-esteem. And
there is value to it. As I've said before the Millennial generation
is outstanding in so many ways and one of the reasons for this is
that they have a high opinion of themselves. This phenomenon has
been written up and moaned about by both the serious and popular
press and is now well known. The value of high self-esteem includes:
- At least they don't have a whiny poor self-image.
- It gives them confidence and willingness to try things.
- It makes them want to do significant things rather than
trivial things.
- It does push them to achieve.
- They are more open to see the good in others rather than
always being so judgmental.
Tuesday, October 22, 2013
When a group needs to be surprised: Reasons #3
Even
though the standard events, the Bible Studies and service
projects that are training them for life may have the
greatest long term effect on the youth, it is the special
event, the unusual, that kids remember and talk about. We
need to provide them those memories.
Monday, October 21, 2013
Sacrificing for our youth: alcohol
Many youth workers were not raised to be teetotalers
and in fact “enjoy a glass of wine with friends” or “a good
beer on a hot day.” Most are confident that they are not a problem
drinker and their drinking is only occasional if not rare. So for
most the question does not arise that they may have to give up all
alcohol except for rare situations. The overriding question is: Is
there any chance any of their youth will find out that you drink
alcohol. The overriding problem is that since they look up to you,
whatever you do is ok for them also. Whether it is legal for them or
not will not enter most of their minds. So, as a role model, your
“freedom” can be a stumbling block for a youth. Some of them
will have a natural inclination to alcoholism and research has
demonstrated conclusively that that youth that start drinking alcohol
before age 18 will be much more likely to become “problem
drinkers.” We don't want to contribute to their beginning of
alcohol use.
Not being a teetotaler myself, I would allow myself
to drink with friends in other communities, but in any situation
where there were people that even knew any of my youth I stayed with
coke/pop/soda.
Does it really affect youth? On a trip with college
youth, we were at a sports bar to see a football game. I decided
that they were mature enough to handle my having a beer. They
weren't.
Sunday, October 20, 2013
Sleep issues
- Make an agreement with the group to not play bed time games:
Lights out will be as late as possible and reasonable, but when they
are turned out it is silence until morning (no “grace” period,
no animal noises...).
- Those who wake early are to be quiet until the agreed upon
wake up time.
Saturday, October 19, 2013
unexpected periods
I have read information debunking this phenomenon but
observation has shown it often enough to believe that “stress,
heat, and excitement” can trigger a woman's period, as can rooming
with a woman who is having her period. Although statistically
improbable, on one trip the females of the group I was with, about a
dozen, managed 100%. So, the related hints are:
- “Surprise” periods are common at camps, retreats and
trips. Always have extra supplies and an adult woman available.
- Adult men should not be clueless. If a girl becomes
distracted and uncomfortable, needing to go to the bathroom, or
perhaps even unwilling to stand up, don't press the issue. You may
have to help draw attention away from her and let her slip out to
clean up.
- Younger girls are much more likely to be caught by surprise
than older girls, but even high school girls can be caught off
guard.
Friday, October 18, 2013
When a group needs to be surprised: reason #2
Sometimes,
a group becomes too predictable and static. Maybe not
stagnant, but at least lacking a spark, a sense of
excitement. This is a good time to throw in a surprise
activity. After a few surprises then the routine is no
longer routine, but the tried and true and secure, and the
new, special activities add a little excitement to the life
of the group.
Thursday, October 17, 2013
supervision in controlled settings
In a safe and confined area, whether in a camp site, a theme
park, a store or a work site with a clear boundary, direct
supervision is not necessary.
- At a camp or camp site some form of sign in/sign out can be
helpful.
- Junior high/middle school youth should still have an adult
within reach, high school youth can go off on their own, with their
buddy or small group.
- Tell them to plan ahead – not get into a line that when
there is not enough time to get through it before a meeting time.
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Sacrificing for our youth: overview
A struggle for most youth workers, especially for
those just going into full or part time-youth work is what of
ourselves we have to give up for the sake of the youth. Do we have
to go against our nature for their sake? Is it hypocritical for us
to behave around them in a way other than how we believe?
Focusing on our priority of serving the youth, rather
ourselves, means that sometimes we need to give up or change
something that we personally do not think is an issue. Or we may
have to rethink how we do things or behave in order to be the best
example we can be for our youth.
The guiding principle is based on First Corinthians
8:9 (and its surrounding context): “But take care that this liberty
of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak.”
(NRSV) The activity may not be a problem for us but if it can be a
problem for the youth then we need to sacrifice for their sake. I'll
be posting a few specific examples later.
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Prize Surprises: Lockins on the Move
The
Surprise:
This program is
not a complete surprise, but can have unknown elements to keep
interest up. In short, it is a overnight Lockin that doesn't stay
locked in. Instead, every hour or two, all night, the lockin changes
location and/or activity.
Lockins are
generally popular with most groups, but are also, more often than
not, really boring. A Lockin on the Move, livens things up for
everyone and removes "free time," as well as making it
easier for adults to stay alert.
How
to do the Surprise:
Plan in advance
to work out a schedule of events that covers the night. This may take
some research or creativity for the wee hours of the morning, but
there are always possibilities. After lining up the activities, begin
publicizing the lockin, including at least some of the special
activities as teasers for those not particularly attracted to plain
lockins.
Make sure that
you have adequate supervision and transportation. If the youth need
any particular items for any of the events, or any spending money, be
sure to list these in the publicity.
One minor but
important detail for events in smaller communities or neighborhoods,
call and warn the Police what will be happening. They will appreciate
the advance notice that the "gang" roaming the street that
night are actually a well supervised group of church kids
(hopefully).
Some
possible activities:
- A Mall scavenger hunt
- Late night Pizza
- Visit an airport
- Bowling
- Rent a Video Arcade for after closing time
- Visit/work at a Night Shelter
- Visit the Police department or an Emergency room
- Visit a 24 hr business or factory
- Midnight movie
- Visit a rock band's practice session
- Visit a Safe (?) and scenic view of the city
- Early morning donuts
- Visit Someone's farm - doing their early morning chores with them
- Serve Breakfast at a night shelter or food kitchen
- Watch the sunrise from the roof of the church or other high place
Problems and
Pitfalls:
Be sure to have
some backup plans in case there needs to be a last minute change.
Some of the options mentioned may have emergency situations come up
that eliminates the possibility of your bringing your group that
particular night. Communications at some of the situations listed are
also erratic and may breakdown - you arrive expecting to be expected
and the people there haven't a clue as to who you are and why you are
there. Having a couple of optional activities plus the equipment and
ideas for games and a program back at the church is always a good
idea.
Some activities
may take you into less comfortable areas of the city, or more
unsettling settings, therefore it is important that everyone have a
sense of security throughout the night. Having adequate adult
leadership is essential. Also, be sure to warn kids (and parents) of
any potentially controversial items.
Be clear in the
publicity that the group will be active all night long. Some people
come to lockins assuming that they can sleep enough for the their
soccer match the next day.
As with all
lockins - be strict about no one coming late or leaving early without
parental permission and a "hand off" of responsibility.
Publish an
itinerary with phone numbers to leave with parent or guardians.
Leaving a contact person or at least messages on the church answering
machine is an especially good idea.
Variations:
- Have the lockin in another town
- Trade Lockins on the Move with another church from another community
- Add a theme that ties everything together
- Make it a part of a confirmation program and concentrate the activities on service and learning.
Monday, October 14, 2013
Health warnings for youth on retreats and camps
On retreats, camps, etc., there are a few basic heath warnings
to give the youth:
- Always wear some kind of foot covering – cuts on the feet
can greatly diminish enjoyment and participation.
- Beware of bare feet on hot pavement and sand.
- Beware of dehydration, especially if the air is cool:
- You have to stay ahead of it, you can't easily catch up.
- Plain old water is the best hydration.
- The first warning of a problem is ceasing to sweat.
- Dark urine, headaches, stomachaches can all be symptoms.
- A person who becomes disoriented is in real danger!
- They need to cool down, lay down and get fluids
- You have to stay ahead of it, you can't easily catch up.
- One sunburns easily on cool days and overcast days
- Everyone needs a soap shower every day
Sunday, October 13, 2013
Emotional risk assessment
Emotional risk issues are potential negative reactions to some
activity.
- Can someone be humiliated?
- Can a person feel that something private is being exposed?
- Is there someone too close to a topic (such as a recent death
in a family) to have it discussed objectively?
- Will something a youth takes seriously be taken lightly?
Saturday, October 12, 2013
Youth Elders
If anyone out there need specific examples of the
value of a youth Elder, let me know
- The Session should have at least one Elder who is a youth (under 18 not under 50).
- They need to be a full Elder not a “youth Elder” without ordination.
- Some of the best Elders I have seen were teens. Their churches would have been deprived if they had not elected and ordained those people.
- Most youth Elders are elected for one year terms, which is problematic (all Elders are clueless their first year) but this is hard to overcome. One church was talking about two youths serving two years each. Another elected them for a three year term in their Sophomore year so they could serve 2 1/2 years before leaving for College.
- Before their election, take the youth aside and make sure they understand that this is not a figurehead position but they are under the same obligations as any other Elder. They are expected to be at the meetings, prepared and involved. They are to provide their unique insight and effort.
- Do not let anyone cut the youth slack – they don't need it any more than anyone else. This is just an attempt to put the youth aside.
Friday, October 11, 2013
Compartmentalization
Many youth, especially
middle adolescents, keep different aspects of their lives in
airtight compartments.
- They may be the “church-boy/church-girl” who, on the
Friday night gets drunk, who on a late night gets really vulgar on
Facebook, who during school is the teacher's pet.
- They do not view this as “hypocritical” and do not see
any relationship between these different “selves.”
- They may try to keep their different groups of friends rigidly separate. They would consider it “weird” for a school friend to attend their church.
Thursday, October 10, 2013
When a group needs to be surprised: Reason #1
Some
groups, especially a group of highly religious youth, are
just too serious! Full of stress and anxiety, they simply
can't let down and enjoy the life that God has given them.
It is fine to appreciate their desire to be productive and
spiritual, but... sometimes, to come to an appreciation of
God's good creation, they simply need to lighten up! For us
to help them in this generally means catching them off
guard. With some youth groups if we scheduled a mission
project we'd get a good turnout but if we scheduled a fun
night, few would come - homework comes first. (I know, I
know, I've had groups that only came on fun nights,
also. But super-serious youth groups are very common.)
These are kids that need us to surprise them, to catch them
off guard, to play with them. It is truly a joy to watch a
group of very serious young adults let down and, at least
briefly, become the children they should be.
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
Priorities: Youth
We say that the youth are our focus, but that should
be evident in what we do, say and believe.
- Our goal is not to make them just like us, agree with us, hold our beliefs. Rather, we are to help them find who they are, and develop beliefs that are intrinsic
- We need to be alert to and afraid of adulation that goes to our head. This is not good for anyone.
- We need to know what they prefer, want and need. This changes from year to year and from group to group.
- Outside agendas, such as “We've never done it that way before,” “that's not acceptable behavior,” “we need to preserve (older music/particular games or songs/traditions/ways of saying things),” “but I don't like that (“I” is not a factor in youth ministry),” “we don't want to upset the Elders,” … are way done the priority list. They can be considered but the current youth and their needs, wishes and concerns come first.
- We need to know their culture. We are not to buy into it or mimic it, but to know understand and adjust to their culture.
- We need to cut them space and slack.
- In pictures of youth group activities, especially public ones, are you the center of the picture or are your youth?
There are things that will help them in the long run that they might not accept or agree with. If we are really sure it is for their benefit, then we may need to be willing to be unpopular with them and insist on it.
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Travel by vehicles -- pit stops
- It is easier to set a target stopping place and meet there,
but this rarely works – some kid is going to be desperate for a
stop somewhere before the designated location. This kid is almost
always in the last vehicle. This sometimes sets up a game of tag as
you try to get back together or perhaps a group ends up waiting by
the side of the road, bored.
- Instead, have the vehicle with the desperate kid in it call
to the lead vehicle to pick an exit and call back to the other
vehicles what exit they are getting off at.
- Pit stops take forever. Plan on it.
- You should plan on a stop every 2 hours.
Monday, October 7, 2013
We can mis-perceive a youth's attitude
We also can also misperceive things. This usually based on a
misreading of an expression. Many youth have a negative “face at
rest.” In other words, when they aren't thinking anything in
particular nor having any particular emotion look like they are ready
to bite someone, break into tears, or fall asleep. I've had youth
that I was sure hated what we were doing tell me afterward what a
great activity it was and how much fun they had!:
- Assuming that someone
doesn't like us or our program
- that they are bored out of
their heads
- that they don't like a
particular activity
- some youth workers assume
without asking or trying
that their students wouldn't
like some activity such as
role playing and drama –
in almost all cases this is a mistaken assumption
- That two kids are enemies
when actually they hardly know the other exists
Sunday, October 6, 2013
When someone seems to have a bad attitude for the day
When someone seems to have a “bad attitude.” Keep in mind
that you cannot read minds (I'm quite confident of this!).
- You probably can't guess what the person is thinking or what
is going on inside them and guessing can get you in trouble.
- Even if you are somehow are able to “read minds” and know
what the problem is, it is best not to reveal it because, 1) if you
are wrong, it can alienate or cause grief or 2) if you are right, it
may spook the person.
- If you have particularly good intuition, use it to be
sensitive and to “allow” conversations to open up the
possibility of a youth to reveal their troubles or concern
- Do give them some gentle positive attention
- Otherwise treat them as if they are normal and everything is
ok
Saturday, October 5, 2013
Prize surprise:Come-as-you-are Breakfast
Surprise Come-as-you-are Breakfast
This surprise can be as elaborate as you wish,
everything from a surprise trip to the favorite fast-food restaurant
to a four course meal. The more elaborate approach will be described
here in order to show the possibilities. In brief, the surprise is to
prearrange with parents so that you can come get the youth bright and
early and without warning on a Saturday or Sunday morning to take
them out for breakfast.
Why do this surprise:
There are several values of this type of
surprise. First and foremost, it gives the youth something to talk
about for years to come. It also tends to bond a random combination
of youth since the group that will be gathered in such an activity is
quite random no matter how systematic we are in trying to have
everyone participate. Since the parents are the one's making the
decision whether a youth will be participating, this type of program
will often reach kids that might not otherwise participate in youth
activities. Finally - this amuses parents to no end.
How to do the surprise:
To start out, decide what type of breakfast to
do, and to find a date that is relatively free in the lives of your
youth. Next call or write parents well in advance about the plan. I
try to call all parents, since teens often go through the family mail
before the parents get home. In talking to the parents, extract a
promise to keep the plan a secret even if their kids will not be
participating.
The starting time is a balance between being
early enough to catch the youth off guard and before they have to be
at other obligations and not so early that it is a problem for the
parents. I usually have pickups start at 7a.m. on a Saturday.
Once a list of youth who will be involved has
been compiled, divide the names geographically then recruit a set of
drivers. It is ideal if the drivers are also adults that are
otherwise connected with the youth such as Youth Group sponsors and
church school teachers. This will make the pickup less stressful for
the youth and help bond youth to leader.
The drivers are to all start pickup at the same
time but in different areas and work toward the destination. As
prearranged with the parent, the driver (and any already picked up
youth?) go to the door, rouse the youth and inform them that they
have 30 seconds to be out the door for a surprise breakfast and that
they will be returned home at xxx o'clock. (The "30 seconds"
business is to give the youth time to get ready enough to be
comfortable about appearing in public before they leave - the idea
is amuse not humiliate. This will be essentially "come as you
are" but not in the extreme.)
Proceed to the breakfast spot. A fancy breakfast
adds to the festive and entertaining nature of this event. Since many
youth have other obligations on most mornings, year round, it is
probably important to plan to have the event end early, no later than
10 a.m. on a Saturday morning for example.
What to avoid:
First and foremost, drivers should not argue with
or force a youth who really doesn't want to participate. This is
supposed to be a fun event and it can be spoiled by someone being
there who is seriously angry about it. A little teasing and cajoling
is fine, but graciously relent if they set their heels.
Also, do not make too serious an item about the
event. This is strictly a fun thing, and if done lightheartedly, it
will be appreciated by the youth.
If a public setting is chosen, like a fast food
restaurant, be especially sensitive to the social sensibilities of
the individual youth and how they are willing to appear in public, we
do not want anyone to feel humiliated by the experience.
Variations:
Have it at the church
Have it in a fast-food, or breakfast restaurant
Have it at someone's house
Have it on the front lawn of the church
Have it at the beach/shore/lake/city park
Combine it with another event - if a group of
youth are signed up for a retreat, trip, outing, fund-raiser that
day, treat that group to a surprise breakfast.
Friday, October 4, 2013
A group needs a major activity every year
It helps a group tremendously to have a big project, preferably
early in the school year. It is one of the best things you can do for
group development.
- It is a bonding experience and after the fact (after all the
trauma, panic and anguish) they feel proud of themselves
collectively and individually.
- Some ideas: Party for children; a service project; invite
area or denominationally related youth groups to a Rally; an
inter-generational event; a congregational dinner...
- The youth themselves need to plan and design the event and
they need to do all the preparatory work.
It is best to not repeat the project year after year but to vary it from year to year (try a 4 year cycle)- Publicity is the hardest for younger youth to get organized
in time. They may need help here.
Thursday, October 3, 2013
Travel: flying: luggage
- Most airlines are currently charging a fee for one or both checked bags that are allowed. Insist the youth pack in as little space as possible.
- If the group has any group luggage, specifically assign each to a youth and put the youths name on it. They need to be clear that they are responsible for it from the time it is given to them to the time they deliver it at the destination lodging.
Wednesday, October 2, 2013
Priorities: Church from the Churches perspective
- Church people tend to view a youth program as being “out there” and not really a part of their church. There's even a subtle or not so subtle view of the youth program as a missions project or evangelism program.
- This can be used to the advantage of the youth program.
- However, in the long run it isolates the youth and keeps them from being a factor in the life of the church
- Do not let the youth to be viewed as the table waiters or gardeners of the church
- If this is all they are called on to do stop it. Refuse to allow them to do these tasks until they are also church officers, committee people, liturgists and any other adult responsibility
- Look for ways of making them publicly visible. Mission projects and fund raisers are good for this.
- Have the youth participate in all church activities (even congregational meetings).
- One of the things that speaks loudest to a congregation about how the congregation views youth is to have a teen (in jeans?) serving communion next to a patriarch/matriarch of the church.
- Remind budget people that 80% of Christians committed themselves to Christ before the age of 18. From a marketing perspective, where should the emphasis be?
- Remind church leadership that attracting youth means attracting whole families
- Have a prominent bulletin board in a main area of the church (Sanctuary lobby?) that highlights the youth program. You can also put news items that feature the church's youth on it.
- Have an annual youth newsletter that lists and highlights the entire youth program and mail it (electronically or otherwise) to the entire congregation
Tuesday, October 1, 2013
Surprises
What would your group think if they showed up for
a Party and it wasn't there -- but had been moved, with only a clue
left behind pointing to the new location (maybe)? How would they
react if a rather serious discussion was spiced up with a little
pizza and a change of location? Who in your group would object to a
Lockin or a Retreat that was a little out of the ordinary?
In my ministry one of the defining features was
the probability of the unexpected. I specialized in the unexpected.
However, the surprises were not random or on the spur of the moment.
Each, from the tiniest program tweak to major surprise events were
carefully planned so that they wouldn't go awry or have unforeseen
consequences. For the next so many weeks I will be mixing into my
blog entries about surprises. In keeping with my practice of not
covering one subject from beginning to end and possibly losing people
that are not interested in that particular subject, I will spread
these out. However, as with other topics, you can click on the
“Surprises” topic and get all the blog entries up to that point
in time. I will have two types of entries, theoretical issues (why,
when, things to watch for) and details on specific surprise
activities.
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