Favoritism

• We tend to favor the ones that everyone else favors. They really don't need any more attention and may actually appreciate being treated as just another kid.
  
• We also may favor those like us or who agree with us. Avoid giving their suggestions or involvement too much support – no matter how brilliant we may think they are.
  
• Try to honor or give opportunities to youth that are just as capable but may usually be passed over in the general society. Church can be the outlet for these capable kids.
  
• Beware of overcompensating by ignoring the potential favorite. But if you must err, err on the side of giving them too little attention rather than too much.
  
• There will be sibling-like rivalry behavior among the group. Don't give them legitimate reasons for being jealous.
  
• Sometimes they expect to be favored and be put out that they are not. Too bad. This is a life learning experience for them.