Leaving a group means leaving it

When you are gone you need to be gone.

• Do not come back to visit. Do not do weddings or anything else.
  
• I'm conflicted about to what extent you cut off communications. With adults all communication should cease, and communications with most youth should cease. However, some youth need someone they won't ever see again in person and who is removed from their situations to use as a sounding board for their problems. If you are the only one that they will open up to, stay in touch.
  
  • But never comment on what is going on back at the church. Don't comment on, agree with or sympathize with complaints about changes or other things having to do with that church. You are no longer there and have no right to interfere in any way.
    
  • The only reason for keeping the communication open is for personal problems and concerns of that particular youth.
    
  • Keep passing kids trying to talk to you back to your successor.