Remaining above suspicion

Staying out of suspicion of inappropriate behavior takes work. The fact that this is currently a double standard, with males being under greater observation and suspicion doesn't matter. These are the facts. In this area society can and does change the rules suddenly and apply them retroactively, so youth workers need to be squeaky clean. Female youth workers may suddenly come under suspicion also, so they should work under the same restrictions and practices as their male counterparts already have to work under.

• Always have adults of both genders present whenever there are youth present.
  
• Never be completely alone with a youth. Out of hearing range, perhaps, but not out of eyesight.
  
• When counseling, the room should have a window and people around. In an emergency, have a spouse or other adult come along. They can be in an adjoining room but the youth should know of this person's presence.
  
• At this time, games need to avoid or disallow “touching” (For example, “If you love me honey, smile.”)
  
• Today, females usually feel most comfortable getting counseling from a female, and males usually feel most comfortable getting counseling from a male. They all prefer getting serious counseling from someone they won't see outside of the office.
  
• And now for the most controversial hint: Again and again I have been counseled by legal people and ecclesiastical officials that if it comes down to choosing to help a youth in a life threatening situation (like suicide) but it would mean being alone with the youth, just call 911 and hope for the best. For me this is like the Priest walking on the other side of road in the Good Samaritan story. To save the life of a youth I will risk sacrificing my career. However, in 40 years of ministry it came down to that decision only twice. Choose carefully and wisely.