Own children in a group (pt 2)

At one time or another many youth workers have their own children in whatever group we are working with. However, this causes some difficult complications in relationships. Admittedly these guidelines are easier said than put into practice.

• If you wouldn't allow something for some other youth, it can't be allowed for your child (while in the group). If something is ok for another kid in the group it is ok for your child.
  
• Just because you know your child's preferences this should not affect your decision making whether it is a type of activity or a type of snack food.
  
• Enlist another adult to be a surrogate parent when you are on duty. This is not only healthy and helpful at the time but can lead to a good long term relationship with a caring adult, which every youth needs.