Listen but do not hear.

“Listen but do not hear.”

• If you keep quiet when they are relating to each other, whether in a van on a trip or on a social networking site or just sitting around at youth group, they will say amazing things, as if you aren't really there.
• It is important not to “really be there” at those times. Take in useful or important information but do not react or interact at those times. Just file the information.
• This allows you to think ahead about how you will react or respond to the issue if they should bring it to you directly. You won't, at the time when they need you, be shocked or offended or surprised.
• These situations are also good for learning about their culture and situation.
• Don't believe everything you hear.